Ross, our son of 21 now, was an absolute nightmare to handle daily as a toddler. I owned my own preschool at that time, and managing 80 pupils, as well as this ‘impossible’ child, made life very trying. He lashed out continuously, cried frequently, had temper tantrums, and could be outright defiant. I had experienced the complete opposite with Tayla, our daughter who was two and a half years older than him.
Nothing had changed in our home circumstances, and we were parenting the same way; with the identical boundaries and consistencies in place. In fact, I rather fancied myself as an awesome parent, what with it being my second-time round, and with my being an educator. I had also experienced role-model parents throughout my childhood, so there should never have been an issue.
In the words of Rebecca Enes: “What I saw then as a call for discipline, I soon learned was a call for connection.” Read the full article and newsletter Issue 5 by Lee-Ann here.